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Buffy the Vampire Slayer
When I was a boy of
fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand
to have the old man around. But when I got to twenty-one,
I was astonished at how much he had learned in seven
years.
~Mark Twain
When you first look into the eyes of
your newborn child, and sense the complete trust and
unconditional love in them, you never consider that,
someday, this same sweet child will stare blankly back
into your eyes and ask you to drop him off a block away
from school so that his friends won't see him with you.
I experienced one of these moments a few
weeks ago. We had an exciting family outing planned when
my son received a last-minute invitation to go snow
boarding with a friend. I asked him which he would prefer
to do, thinking he would choose to come with us. He gave
me the infamous, teenage, blank stare, as if to say, "How
can you even ask such a stupid question?" Within fifteen
minutes he was gone. Fortunately, he broke his finger
while snow boarding, so I felt somewhat vindicated.
My situation is not unique. No parent
can possibly compete with a teenager's peers for
importance or attention. Someday, Tom Cruise and Nicole
Kidman will invite their children to accompany them to an
A-list post-Oscar party and the kids will instead opt to
stay home and play Nintendo with the pimply-faced neighbor
boy.
A few months ago I had the opportunity
to meet former Utah Senator Jake Garn. Senator Garn has a
teenage daughter who was learning about airplanes in a
high school class. One evening, she had a question about
flying and her father had the audacity to reply. She, of
course, immediately dismissed his answer because it
contradicted what her teacher had told her.
This prompted to Mrs. Garn to say, "Your
father is just trying to help. He's been a pilot for the
Navy, spent 16 years in the Air National Guard, and flown
to outer space and back in the Space Shuttle. I think you
can trust him when he tells you something about aviation."
For some reason, the teenage brain
equates "parent" with "stupidity". I have no doubt that if
Einstein's children were struggling with their science
homework, they would never even remotely consider the
possibility of asking dad for help.
In an effort to determine exactly whom
teenagers consider reliable sources of information, I
conducted an informal survey. I asked this question:
Suppose you are on Who Wants To Be A Millionaire, and you
have made it to the final question. You can call one
person to help you with the answer. Who would you call?
The Hierarchy of Reliable Sources of
Information for a Typical Teenager
1. Best Friend
2. Other High School Friends
3. Casual Acquaintances from School
4. Complete Strangers from School
5. Neve Campbell
6. Buffy the Vampire Slayer
7. Ricky Martin
8. Shaquille O'Neal
9. Bass player for N'Sync
10. School teachers
11. Nobel prize laureates
12. Mom and Dad

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